What do you want? Such a simple question, and yet for so many people on this earth, the answer is never found. We go through life self-medicating our dissatisfaction with money, goals, alcohol, fancy cars and new shoes, parties and big nights out… But did you ever stop to think whether this truly makes you happy? What you want out of life?
Now, I can’t guess what it is that you want per se, that’s your call to make based on your purpose, your likes, dislikes, hopes, dreams…all that good stuff. And chances are, you already know what it is you want. The question remains, though – how do you get it?
Here’s the secret
What’s the biggest difference between successful and unsuccessful people? It’s not luck, talent, money, or any of those other ideas that we’re sold on a daily basis. The difference is force. Sheer determination.
Most of us sit around for far too long waiting to feel like it. Waiting for that surge of energy, that brainwave of brilliance. We sit on our couches watching television waiting for some magical force to come along and change our lives. And after that happens, THEN we’ll head to the gym, THEN we’ll practice guitar, THEN we’ll ask that cute girl out on a date. But here’s the truth:
You will never feel like it.
And while that might seem really depressing, it can actually be quite liberating. You don’t have to wait one single day longer. Because that feeling you’re hanging on for just isn’t coming.
In spite of, not because of
Every single person you’ve admired in your life has shaken off the beast of comfort and safety and stepped out into the unknown. They didn’t feel like it, but they went on in spite of this. Their sense of urgency and purpose for this thing we call life outweighed their need for living a safe existence.
One of my favourite humans, Mel Robbins, talks about activation energy – in essence, the energy you need to make things happen. She compares it to the same level of energy it takes to get out of bed without hitting the snooze button (which if your me very much looks like Superman battling a runaway train). It takes A LOT. It’s not easy.
So now what?
Now that you’re armed with your life shopping list and the knowledge that you can get started on it whenever you choose, what are you waiting for? Scary, isn’t it?
What do you want your life to look like? If you’re taking steps to get there each day, you’re well on the way to making it happen. It’s all about that activation energy.